The issue of jealousy and trust is one of inevitable moments in a relationship. This issue can come even if you've been just dating for a couple of months, too soon isn't it? Well, yes. But when strong feelings are there, suspicions are much more intense.
Jealousy, most of us feel it at some time or other. Some people experience it more strongly than others and some even let jealousy consume them. Sometimes the feeling is justified and at other times it isn't. It's an ugly emotion, both for the one feeling it and for the person at the other end.
Every person who are currently in a relationship or once had a relationship also have experienced jealousy. In fact, many would attest that jealousy is one of the reasons why relationship ends. Jealousy happens all the time but there are ways to combat them and live a more meaningful relationship.
Look back into your expectations about trust and having a relationship. People have different expectations about trust. Unfortunately, it doesn't always just turn out that "you only fall in love with people who share your views on trust." You and your boyfriend might have different expectations about trust. It doesn't make either one of you right or wrong. It simply makes you different from one another. If you think you can't handle each others expectations, better call it quits. Same advice if you both expect nothing from each other at all, your relationship will just be miserable in the end.
Another thing that you can do to overcome the issues of jealousy and trust is to make a commitment. Commit to be fair and let little things pass. Be fair, simply put yourself into his shoes and you'll figure out what I mean. Let little things pass, this doesn't mean you care less, but just ignore those things that are not worthy of both your attention. Do yourself a favor and show your boyfriend that you are confident about the relationship.
Both parties should put forth an effort to resolve the issues of jealousy and trust in a relationship. Because love is such a work, a work that you need to focus on if you want your relationship to grow into a more meaningful one. But it's not all fighting and struggling. You still got to make a choice when you think love isn't enough, when you think things are not like before, or when you're feeling too much pain. You have an option to give up, let go and move on.
People handles jealousy in different ways. Some of them can control it, hide it, or overcome it in a flash, if they want to. Others simply don't know how to deal with it at all. I used to be jealous when my cats purr and smooch over my boyfriend, cause when that happens I simply become invisible to my boyfriend's eyes. 'Till I realized that same thing happens when my cats turn their attention to me. Therefore, it's not who they are smooching. That realization, when applied to real life, can resolve the issues of jealousy and trust.
Jealousy, most of us feel it at some time or other. Some people experience it more strongly than others and some even let jealousy consume them. Sometimes the feeling is justified and at other times it isn't. It's an ugly emotion, both for the one feeling it and for the person at the other end.
Every person who are currently in a relationship or once had a relationship also have experienced jealousy. In fact, many would attest that jealousy is one of the reasons why relationship ends. Jealousy happens all the time but there are ways to combat them and live a more meaningful relationship.
Look back into your expectations about trust and having a relationship. People have different expectations about trust. Unfortunately, it doesn't always just turn out that "you only fall in love with people who share your views on trust." You and your boyfriend might have different expectations about trust. It doesn't make either one of you right or wrong. It simply makes you different from one another. If you think you can't handle each others expectations, better call it quits. Same advice if you both expect nothing from each other at all, your relationship will just be miserable in the end.
Another thing that you can do to overcome the issues of jealousy and trust is to make a commitment. Commit to be fair and let little things pass. Be fair, simply put yourself into his shoes and you'll figure out what I mean. Let little things pass, this doesn't mean you care less, but just ignore those things that are not worthy of both your attention. Do yourself a favor and show your boyfriend that you are confident about the relationship.
Both parties should put forth an effort to resolve the issues of jealousy and trust in a relationship. Because love is such a work, a work that you need to focus on if you want your relationship to grow into a more meaningful one. But it's not all fighting and struggling. You still got to make a choice when you think love isn't enough, when you think things are not like before, or when you're feeling too much pain. You have an option to give up, let go and move on.
People handles jealousy in different ways. Some of them can control it, hide it, or overcome it in a flash, if they want to. Others simply don't know how to deal with it at all. I used to be jealous when my cats purr and smooch over my boyfriend, cause when that happens I simply become invisible to my boyfriend's eyes. 'Till I realized that same thing happens when my cats turn their attention to me. Therefore, it's not who they are smooching. That realization, when applied to real life, can resolve the issues of jealousy and trust.
About the Author:
Kai Montpetit shares her ways to overcome issues of jealousy and trust in a relationship. The issue happens to all, and many have succeeded to overcome it.
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